The 6
things I miss
There is
nothing better than being a mother to my children. I love them more than life
itself and I would never go back and change any part of being their mother.
They have shown me the true meaning of life and what pure joy and happiness
really is. I made sure to include that for all the ‘perfect mothers’ out there
that like to pretend that these are the only thoughts that ever cross their
minds throughout life.
However, the truth about being
a mother is that life is not easy, perfect, always happy etc etc… Life with
toddlers or small children is crazy, insane, disastrous, messy, and will drive
you out of your mind…..along with all of that good stuff that I prefaced this
with.
There are a few things that
you will miss when you become a mother and for everyone this list is a little
bit different, but here are the major ones for this ‘truly un-perfect, and not
trying to be, mother.
1. Buying
food for just me- I miss food that I can call my own. I miss being able to go
to the grocery store and pick out a snack food to divulge into later in the
evening in front of my binge-worthy show. Instead of this option, it’s two
toddlers watching my every move at the store asking “can I have some of that?
Are those cookies for me? When do I get to eat them? I want them NOW! Where are
my snacks? I don’t want those chips!” If I am smart enough to grab something
when they aren’t with me, they are little scavengers and they hunt it out at
home. “When did you buy these mom? I want them!” Instead of this, I have
resorted to hiding my stash, and liking snacks that they won’t eat. Cookies
with pecans in them or mint chocolate chip ice cream, both are golden and never
touched, therefore, they are my favorite snacks now.
2. Eating
food in peace- I know, you must think that I do nothing but eat. If you are not
a mother and are laughing at this statement, your time will come. If you are a
mother, you will definitely relate to hiding your face in the fridge to scarf
down that chocolate bar, or hiding in the pantry closet to finish off the cheese
curls while the kids are sitting in front of a TV show you swore they would
never watch. You have never seen a parent eat as fast as when they are hiding
in the fridge and the kid comes walking around the corner. Also, be sure not to
chew, because kids are smarter than that and they will realize you are eating
something and they will definitely want some. If your mouth is full, they will
have a hundred questions to ask you and then say ‘why aren’t you answering me
mommy? Is there something in your mouth? Can I have some?’
3. TV-I
miss movies, TV shows, award shows, trashy reality shows, etc etc etc. The
children dominate, period. Since I am parent of the year and all, ha. I make
sure that my children do not live in front of the TV, since it rots their brains
and all. This means that either they are getting their allotted ’TV time’, or
the TV is off and I am forced to play yet another round of ‘dress this doll for
me’, or ‘my sister said she isn’t my sister anymore’. Thank god they go to bed
early and I get an hour to myself in front of the tv, so I make sure my brain
is fully rotting away in a wonderfully relaxing way almost every night. Before
children, the TV was on the entire time I was home, just chilling in the
background, incase anything exciting ever came on.
4. Showers-Long,
hot, wonderfully blissful, relaxing, singing out loud to my music, showers! Do
I get showers now? Of course I shower daily! Are they wonderful and blissful?
Um…do you know anyone with small children, because their mothers will just
laugh at that statement? Showers are not a relaxing process anymore, they are
simply a way to get clean as fast as you can because both children need to pee
and one may have already gone in the hallway while you were in there. You only
get a few quick minutes and you better be prepared to answer fifty questions
while you are in there. Children reason that if you don’t answer their question
of ‘can I color on your new hardwood floor?’ that means you definitely don’t
mind!
5. Reading-
This one might be a little more personal to me, but I am sure it applies to
everyone in some small way. I personally love to read books. I love to fall
into a book that sucks me in and makes me feel like I am in a completely
different world of peace, love, and happiness. You need silence to gain that
feeling, and let me tell you silence is not something that you may ever
experience again until your children completely move out. That brings me to
number six, which is…
6. Silence-This
is something that you may experience every now and then. Maybe your parents or
in-laws decide they want the little buggers for the night, or you get done work
early and forget to tell anyone and sneak back to the house to stare at four
walls for half an hour just because you can. This silence is pretty much gone,
but even when you do catch a few moments of it, it will not be a positive
feeling. If the children are home and you realize there is silence, someone is
definitely coloring the hardwood floors or holding down their sister because
they are a cop and sis is the robber.
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